10:34 PM
an incident occurred the other day that has sent me on this whole thought spiral. why is it that we jump to do things for friends, acquaintances, people we've just met and yet for the people that we supposedly love the most, like significant others, family and the closest of friends, we don't mind doing things for later, or presenting half baked attempts?!
people who only start going out with each other spend hours in the mirror, worrying about every minuscule detail about clothes and hair and whatnot. they practice witty lines to say and think of intelligent topics of conversation, and yet when they've been together for some time, and have made the supposed commitment, and it is assumed that they love each other, they don't bother dressing up anymore- they walk around in sweats, stringy hair and are ok with it. the witty lines are replaced by sighs and grunts.
when new acquaintances ask us for little favors, we jump at it, maybe because we're scared to give off bad impressions but easily break promises to our boyfriends and girlfriends and justify to ourselves that its ok. im guilty of this. my boyfriend is guilty of this.are we so secure in our relationship that we break promises without fearing the consequences, that the other one will stick around anyway, regardless of the said promise or not.
i don't know where i'm going with this. i can't help but wish that it was the other way around with the people that we love most and those that are just there. :(
Labels: questions, thinking aloud
sam