10:55 AM
let me start by saying that i'm irked. irked by general tactlessness and thoughtlessness of general people. i get it that everyone is different and it follows that we have different offensive thresholds, different behaviors and different reactions but c'mon- boundaries still exist and its a fine line between funny, cute and just plain rude! so this is just me, ok, and my 7 capitals sins of tactlessness and thoughtlessness. they're deadly so beware. committing any one of these may equate to social suicide. and so, in my twisted little world, it is not fine/okay/acceptable to act in the following manner/s:
1.tell people about their weight gain to their face! i know this is a Filipino trait but do you really want to push someone who's feeling a little self conscious to begin with further down?! people may think they are being helpful-newsflash- YOU"RE NOT! what you're doing is rude, insensitive and just plain hurtful. no one knows better than oneself if they've gained weight and if they need to lose it. let's reserve the "oh you've gained so much weight" to lolas and titas who come from different generation and do not comprehend the rudeness, or to sisters and the closest of friends who can tell you shit to your face but do it because they are genuinely looking out for you.
2.when in a new place, take note of the social norms THERE and do not assume that your way is the right and civilized one. YOUR CULTURE IS NOT SUPERIOR, okay?! DEAL.
3.it is rude to whisper in someone else's presence. this behavior may be acceptable when one is 5 but not at 25. if you are dying to share this secret,maybe you can try being discreet about it, maybe you can text or go to the bathroom together but please save your excluded company from the uncomfortable feeling of being left out and being the subject of your ridicule. a dinner or a loong afternoon between you or your confidant may be the more appropriate setting for you.
4.no matter what excuse you give, ditching someone is just that. if you've made prior plans, please say so beforehand, and save everyone, yourself included, the trouble and confusion. good friends understand and respect prior plans. better friends do not ditch good friends.
5.mocking someone else's beliefs when they are not yours in front of said person is not ok. people take things like this seriously you know. wars have been fought for them and lives have been shed. anybody remember the crusades?
so as not to be dubbed an asshole or an insensitive, close-minded jerk, shut your trap for the moment, change the subject to avoid conflict and MOVE ON. there are a million other topics under the sun to discuss besides this.
6.bursting a good friends bubble makes you a bitch and/or a bastard. when your friends is happy, you should be happy for them. if you find yourself with some other green eyed emotion, you might want to question your friendship. a good friend would be happy for your successes too. sarcastic comments and general let down lines are best left in the recesses of one's dark soul and are only to be taken out when confronting one's worst enemy.
7.while it seems that there are no boundaries between yourself and your bff, the case may not be the same for your bff's significant other. tread on cautious ground in this area. you never know when you're ruffling your bff's s.o's feathers.
while there may be more for other people, i think these are the ones that get my b.p boiling. feel free to add what ticks you off too. i am genuinely interested to find out if i've been treading on other people's shoes too. share! for general peace on earth, goodwill to mankind and all that mumbo jumbo :p
Labels: grrrrrrrrrr, irked princes, rant, thoughtlessness and tactlessness
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